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Thursday, August 21, 2008

The ugly

Well I have been posting about how well things have been going and then wouldn't you know it BAM we hit a BRICK WALL! The saw the ugly part of having 2 under 2. 2 nights ago ... (Tuesday night) everything was going well, Andy and I had talked to several people about how well it was all going ... the sleep, the tears and the over all having 2 babies. Then at 8pm I fed little man (I am breast feeding) and said honey I am off to bed, didn't get much rest today feel like I need it now ... he said okay I will be up later. His later turned into 11pm when he heard Bowden crying ... he came up stairs and got him out of his bassinet and brought him and all of the items needed to change his diaper over to me ... that is his JOB I feed baby, he brings baby and puts baby back, when feeding is over. So yep at 12 we were all done eating, I wake Andy up tell him Bowden is ready to go back to bed, as he is walking across the room I hear Tatum. I say "was that the other baby" With a deer in head light look he says "Yeah, what do I do" You see Tatum will let Daddy put her to bed, but wont let daddy console her when upset and I still was trying not to pick her up. Anyway ... he went to her, got her calmed down which was amazing ... however 2 hours later he still could not put her back in the crib. Each and EVERY time he tried to put her down she would sit up and scream dadadad ... it was so sad. (PS She WILL NOT SLEEP WITH US IN THE BED, WE HAVE TRIED WHEN THIS HAPPENS AND IT IS A NO GO) So it is now 2 o'clock ... I walk in the room and say okay enough is enough, you did good honey but get out ... I took over! I rocked her for almost an hour and I heard the little man crying ... so up with her I went walked her over to the crib and success ... she was asleep. Now time for me to fed the baby. An hour later ... yep 3am I am finally putting him back down and I get into bed. I crawl into bed after being up 3 hours that I am usually sleeping ... I start balling my eyes out ... the kind of cry that you hyper ventilate to ... the cry that shakes the house. I turn over and Andy is looking at me like oh no ... he comes the tears (again with Tatum I cried and cried for weeks) he said honey " you are doing great it will all be okay" I said I know I am so so tired ... with that he started to cry and simply said "honey I am so sorry." I told him I loved him and within seconds we were both asleep.
Tatum usually wakes up around 7:30 ... you would think after not sleeping for 3 of the 11 hours that she usually sleeps that she would have slept in ... NO WAY JOSE ... she was up at 6:15am. We were going to go "visit" the great grands on this day ... Andy got out of bed, dressed her fed her and sent her to Day care ... he said for the first time ever he walked in, handed her over and said GOOD LUCK! He walked back in the door said the Great's could wait to see her another day! We slept on and off until 11 ... of course still waking every 2-3 hours to feed the baby, got up took showers and went on our trip. It was a good day after we got some rest and got our 2nd wind back.
Anyway ... that is the UGLY and yes last night was much better!

17 comments:

Dawn said...

I'm sorry y'all had such a rough night. I hope things get better quick, especially once the baby starts to sleep a little more. Hang in there!

katie said...

congrats on the beautiful baby boy! he's beautiful!!

absurdly yours said...

I am so sorry for you. My only advice is sleep whenever you have a spare moment. You will look back on this in a couple of years and think it wasn't so bad. I will send the sandman your way to sprinkle a little sleepy dust on the kids.

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Louisa said...

Oh love! I am so glad you posted this. I hope you've been able to get some rest since. I have been feeling like I've hit the wall of late and LP is 4 months. Wasn't this supposed to happen 3.5months ago? Anyway...sounds like you are doing a terrific job with your 2 and that you have a wonderful and supportive husband. What a blessing! Saying a prayer for you guys...love Lou

Dawn said...

I've never known anyone else kicked out of girl scouts, so I guess we're 2 of a kind!!

Elleoz said...

Aww hun! Great big hugs! I agree with absurdly yours...get sleep whenever you can. It will get better I promise! BIG HUGS!

angela said...

Oh, how I so remember those nights of each of use having one to console or deal with one child. It will get easier soon. My rule was nap time was whenever both kids were asleep. For the first few months we had the craziest schedule. Sleep late in the afternoon and then be up until 1am or 2am and then back to bed. We finally got them more on "human time" and it was great! Hang in there. You are a great mommy.

LCP said...

Oh goodness...I am sure there are going to be a couple more of those nights, but you seemed to have handled it very well!! And your hubby, so sweet helping and consoling you. This "restless" time will be over before you know it!!

Hope you have a great weekend and can catch up on some more sleep!

Stacie said...

OMGosh, I'm always so late to every party..first of all, CONGRATULATIONS! He's beautiful! (or should I say handsome?)

Second of all, Hang in there kiddo, it does get easier. Sleep when you can and don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing great!
Stacie

Goodrow Gang said...

Oh, this sad, ugly story sounds SO familiar. I'm sorry you have these kind of nights. Oh, the joys of motherhood! Happy resting!

The Kept Woman said...

(sticks fingers in her ears and sings)

I'm pretending I don't hear any of this. It's been SO long since I've had a newborn that I'm pretending everything is going to go great and she's going to sleep through the night and so are the older sisters. Yup...denile...ain't just a river anymore, folks.

Congrats on Bowden! I haven't been around (anywhere) in awhile...he's SO cute!!!!!

The Partins said...

Oh gosh girl.... I am SO sorry. You really are doing a great job! Hopefully they will let you sleep more soon!

tommie said...

I hate to break it to you, but it seems like you got the memo. Honestly, it is almost like they have a radar......as soon as one wakes up, the other just HAS to be awake to add to the chaos! Mine are almost four and five. I can still count on one hand nights that BOTH wake up (and we are in beds, so they just open the door and come in our room!)

The nights that they sleep ALL night in their own beds are far and few in between. I guess I am counting on those teen age times all too soon!

Dang, now I feel like the bad mom!

tommie said...

ps, I just looked at the comments about sleeping when they are sleeping.

I totally disabled the door bell and phone. My kids slept maybe an hour every three hours at first. No matter how much the house or computer called, I did sleep! Otherwise I don't know when I would have.

kimmyk said...

i remember those nights.

they pass. you dont think they will, but soon enough lil man will be sleeping through the night and all will be well. it's getting there that's the rough spot.

and please do not put tatum in your bed when she fusses!!! don't do it!! i know it sounds like a quick fix when you need that sleep, but believe me...dont do it. i did that with adam and omg, it was 6 years before i could get that kid in his own bed. your bed should be for you and andy and that's it. trust me on this one!!!! good for her not wanting to sleep with y'all...

it'll pass and all will be well in your world...give it time.

Wendy said...

Congrats on the the beautiful baby! I haven't been here in a while so I'm sorry for being late with my congrats!