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Sunday, May 25, 2008

1st Birthday For Miss T

Well I am beating myself up over here but I don't think we will be having a BIG birthday bash for Tatum Bell ... With work, working on the River house, Preggo and her I am EXHAUSTED!!! Last night I was in bed by 8 and up with Tatum at 4 ... she hasn't slept through the night in 4 weeks. :( Which is very hard since she has been sleeping through the night since she was 3 months. So up with her once, up to pee 3 times and my body HURTS! I tried so hard to work at the house all day yesterday ... I made it from 9 - 3 and my ankles were swollen and my fingers were too. I had to leave, go get the baby and then tend to her. So I was still up on my feet. We have missed the move in date of June ... not sure how we will be moving in in another month when I am really miserable, but we will figure it out, I guess.

Anyway back to the point - sorry I went on that whining spree ... I hate to rob her, but I thought] that it would be easier on ME (and her too) to have just the family over. It is only 2 weeks and a couple days away ... and I really just have NO ENERGY! is that horrible?! I have been to several1st birthday's with TONS of kids, and parents and really they are more for the parents than the kids, and I just can't see me spending energy for parents at this point. I love my friends, but I can't find the strength to pull it all together ... and I a horrible mommy?!

12 comments:

Paul said...

I can't remember any birthday parties from when I was kid. As long as you buy some cake, plop it down in front of her and snap photos while she makes a mess of herself, you've got it covered.

Get some rest!!

Chris said...

I feel you hon. For Lindsay's first bday we had a cake here at the house on her bday which was a work night. I invited over one of our neighbors, Mike's brother who lives in our subdivision and Aunt KK and we did spagetti and cake. We had a bigger party that weekend up at my sisters house but it was still just family. Just do the family and ENJOY the day with her. Do the big traditional baby cake smash and have fun. She'll never know the diff. I'm not having a big hoopla for Lindsay this year for the same reason as you. I'm too tired and stressed to deal with it. Her bday is Friday June 20 and I'm taking the day off and we're going to have a play date at Monkey Joe's with a couple of my friends and their kids. I figure she'll have a fun birthday that way. Then we're doing a family dinner (again at my sisters) on Sunday after her bday. I wanted to do a "Party" with some of her buddies from daycare etc but I just don't have the energy OR the money to spend on that. We have way more important things to put our money towards right now. Her big girl room, furniture and all the soon to come medical bills for the new baby. It's OK...you're not a horrible mom!!! Save it up and give her the party of her dreams when she'll remember it for the rest of her life!

angela said...

I would do whatever you feel comfortable with. She will love it either way. Do the small parties now because when they get older it really gets wild!!! We had to put a stop to the madness last year with Kade. He had 2 friends to sleep over, cake, and pizza. Best party EVER!!!!

Stephanie said...

I'm not even preggo OR building a house and I'm not having a big bash for Stella's birthday this year. And honestly, as long as you let her go to town on the cake and take some pics, that is a PERFECT first birthday!!! Being with close family is all that matters!! You can have a big one next year if you want. She's not robbed of anything so don't even think that!!

kimmyk said...

i think you're doing fine.
probably working too hard and being way too hard on yourself kim.

tatum isnt going to care whose at her party as long as she sees those that love her and she gets cake.

birthday cake can solve world problems i dont know why they dont use it more often....good stuff.

family is great-and until she gets older and has 'friends', friends...i think you're good to go.

get some rest....

Andrea said...

Don't beat yourself up over this AT ALL! I did the big party for David's first two years and never again I say! I cleaned and cleaned only to clean even harder once the party was over. Go to the park and have a picnic with family-that is what we are doing this year!

Heather said...

Just going to agree with everyone else here, no big deal. In fact, too much of a big deal can stress out a one year old. Coat the kid in frosting, take some good pics, put them on the blog eventually, you're good.

Kathy said...

She won't even know what she missed. I'm not giving my kids parties with friends until they're in Kindegarten. And until then they'll think that little family parties are just what we do. And it should be enough! Take care of yourself!!

Robin said...

not having a HUGE 1st birthday party isn't going to be the end of the world. seriously. just get her a cake, tie a balloon to her highchair, sing happy birthday & be done with it. but, just make sure you get lots of cute pics of her eating her cake! just have immediate family over (like maybe just y'alls parents). tatum won't remember it! you can have a very small celebration & it will be perfect! :)

Boom said...

This is not a big deal at ALL. The only part that mattered to me about the 1st birthday was getting the good pic of the baby eating that cake!!

Chris said...

I updated...come check out my FAT BABY on my u/s pics!!!

How are you??

Christina said...

I wouldn't worry about it. Like you said, the party is more for the adults at one year old. We had a small party for Mira - far smaller than the one we had for Cordy - and it was perfect.

Better to focus on your other needs at the moment and throw her a great second birthday party in the new house next year.